Share life wiht a child whos competent actions come not from fear, but from joy and love.
Consensual Living to me means living harmoniously with my son on a foundation of trust and unconditional love without control of the other.
"Many parents already know how to control children gently; what we don't know is how NOT to control them and live in peace and joy with them. - pg. xiv
Aldort goes on to explain how the purpose of her book is not to teach parents how to elicit cooperation but how to empower self-realisation for both the parent and the child because an autonomous child, whose life flows in their direction, acts productively because they want to. They act out of joy and love instead of acting out of fear or the need to earn approval. Naomi Aldort then gives parents a formula in her book to help them communicate harmoniously with their child in a healthy and healing way to help with the shift, not only in perspective but from control (in its various forms- such as punishments and rewards) as well.
This is a hard shift to make (internally and externally). It makes us question a lot of things - especially about our own selves and childhood and how, through these things, we react to our own childre. I hope that with this blog I can share with you how this looks in our family and how it works in practice as well. No parent is perfect (I certainly am not!), but we can all try out best and I feel that I try for something that is better - in hopes to make a change that starts right here right now with our own family.
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